Five Monumental Parts Of Adulthood No One Prepares You For

That I wish I had known about

Lea O
5 min readJun 13, 2022


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Remember when you couldn’t wait to be an adult? Back when you thought you’d have it all together by age 25 or 30?

Yeah, lol. Me too.

We spend all of our younger years caught up in the treasure box dream of adulthood. We can’t wait to get a driver's license, go on a date, start college, buy a home, jump into marriage….on and on. Because then, when we reach the treasure box filled with milestones, we’ll be complete, happy, successful, etc.

None of this actually happens, of course. Happiness is not a level in a video game. And in turn, most of us are set up to fail at the most basic nuances of adulthood, especially now as the world has changed dramatically in the last 20 years.

Perhaps this phenomenon is reserved for Millennials, but I don’t think so.

No matter how prepared you are, there are universal truths about adulthood that hardly anyone is equipped for.

Ready for them?

Friendship break-ups

Sure, there are the rom coms where two friends have an argument tied up with a beautiful bow of reconciliation at the end.

But there are few, if any, real portrayals of real friendship break-ups. How would we know that friendships breaking up can be painful, and we may never get the closure we might want from it either?

How would we know when the BFF trope is repeated in movies and television shows?

It’s a cold, hard reality of adulthood that almost no one is prepared for.

In my own experience, this was especially true in the later years of my twenties and early thirties. Life changes so much and so fast in those years. Divergence creeps in. Life experience solidifies or shakes who you thought you were, and as a result, friendships do break your heart sometimes.


At work, in the grocery store, and at the coffee shop.

In TV, movies, and books, confrontation is just part of the story, written into the plot to keep you watching, develop characters, and set up a nice ending of…



Lea O

9X Top Writer. Essayist. Personal development. Creativity hacks.