Signs you’ve grown more than you think this year and how to keep going in 2022 — You already know that trees can grow for centuries if left undisturbed in the right conditions. But did you know that trees can only grow by producing new cells in limited places? One of the places this happens? You guessed it…the roots. A tree may grow exponentially over the course…

Benefits of combining therapy modalities The last time I sat through a traditional talk therapy session was early 2017. At the time, my military life had moved me to the only duty stationed I never wanted to move to… The middle of the snow belt. Seasonal depression, chronic depression, and…

There’s a lot of stuff floating around in the ether about narcissistic abuse and gaslighting. Narcissists in the workplace, married to a narcissist. Toxic gaslighting in politics and in professional settings. I searched far and wide for narcissistic parents. I wrote about emotional immaturity and narcissism. How they coexist and…

No, it’s not just you — I’ve always been a loner. An INFJ personality type, a rocky upbringing, and my eccentricity cemented this. I’ve never had a huge friend group. No gal pals or brunch brigades for me. I like it that way. I prefer closer, more intimate friendships. Still, that can make my life feel…

It’s easier than you think — Freelancing has become all the rage. Words like digital nomad and headlines that boast how much some Joe Schmo made from their couch are all over the place. While I’m not into bashing other writers publically, I think we all know the once renowned freelancer who recently (and rather dramatically)…

Hello from the other side — I’m as old as yesterday but hopefully as new as tomorrow — Dolly Parton Well. It’s been a long time since I wrote my first and last introduction piece. A lot of things have changed on this platform and with me too. …

Dealing with parents is different than dealing with other narcissists. Here are tried and true tips for how to do it — Have you read all the articles on narcissists, but still can’t find a way to navigate the relationship? Do you feel stuck between choosing low-contact, no-contact, grieving, and confusion? Does the conflicting information about narcissists make you feel like you’ll never see the end of this tumultuous nightmare?

For trauma survivors — So you’ve tried them a bunch of times, but still hate affirmations, mindfulness, and meditation? Are you convinced they just don’t work for you? I used to be too. I spent years going to therapists who suggested yoga, self-care, long bubble baths, words of affirmation, and “just breathing through it.” …

That usually mean you’re getting scammed — I have a theory… Every successful salesperson has to have a little cringe; otherwise, they wouldn’t make much money. This theory is based on opinion and experiences with hard sale tactics, but I like to test it now and again. …